Dialogue with colleagues with a negative attitude

Long ago, I started the work of trust and real estate lawyers who needed help of his filing system. Paralegal who was working for him for over 10 years was also adopted by him. Her life collapses with the destructive effects of four stages of cancer and chemotherapy, she will become a shell of herself. Together with the history of bullying, obesity, chronic pain, memory loss, she was low self-esteem and strong helpless.

It was not easy to deal with people who had experienced tremendous pain in her life. I was often exposed to her troublesome retort, sometimes exposed to an unfair wording. Time and time once again I stood there thinking that there was the possibility that someone could be very confrontational and defensive. I knew there were some fundamental fundamental reasons.

Since I knew she had to work with her during an unknown time, my mission was to understand her and I knew that I was not a therapist, but confidence I knew that I had to adopt a soft approach to get it. She was a bad cookie, but eventually she came to understand the reason for her negative ways.

There was no secret approach. I do not have any special formulas to implement. I just listened and asked a question. I was really interested in her story. Before reaching that point in my relationship, I was always defensive. I was careful not to insult things like broken personas, but I apologized immediately when something became insensitive. I quickly defended myself when the situation called for it. I pointed out why that is so. As you might be in doubt, the first few months was an adjustment for my colleagues, so she was never placed in her place because of the comments and mood dissatisfactions for me There was nothing. We constantly insisted. It seemed that our relationship was disappeared. But in order to get better, it had to get worse.

My relationship with my colleagues experienced a slight setback, but I already had a way at a good time. I insisted that I do not want to neglect her negative, and somehow managed to unite with her. I understood her, even though I was always pure frustration, it was perfect for her. Among other things, I listened.

When dealing with difficult people, compassion goes far. My special case was not normal, but I learned a lot. Having this way of thinking helped me grow as a person and made it possible to understand more deeply the people of suffering which I always do not see. Sometimes a little effort will go a long way.

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